Will you marry a great wife?

"Will I marry a good wife?" is a common question asked by many single men.  You may find the answer in your own birthday Bazi chart.

To check marital relationship in Bazi for men, the place to look at is the spouse palace of the day-pillar and wealth stars (zheng-cai/ pian-cai).  Wealth star represents wife or mistress.

Below are chart features that bring you a good wife:

1.  Wealth star is favorable ("yong-shen") in natal chart (财为用神)
"Favorable" here means wealth star is good for the balance of your natal chart.  This will bring you a pretty and virtuous wife with marital bliss.

2.  Wealth star is "in season" in natal chart (财星当令)
"In season" here means your birth month is also a wealth month.  Man born in a wealth month usually are good at building relationship with women.  If wealth star is favorable, this man is likely marrying early with  a pretty wife.  Wife's family is likely rich or prominent in local region.

3.  Wealth star sits in spouse palace (财入妻宫)
"Spouse palace" is the day-branch element.  Wealth star stands for wife.  When wealth star sits in the spouse palace means "star and palace matching" and is auspicious.  This man will get a  capable and virtuous wife with good education and probably affluent family background.  Wife will bring good luck and wealth to him after marriage.

4.  Power star sits in spouse palace (官入妻宫)
"Power star",  besides means husband for female, also represents "luk 禄".   "Luk" means wealth and fame derived from career or government positions.  When a man's spouse palace is occupied by a power star, it means he may derive his blessing and fame from wife's connection or social background.

You must also check the daymaster (DM) strength of the chart before applying the above features.  The features above are mostly applicable to charts with a strong or special "follow wealth" daymaster. 

If you want to know how to find a rich wife or husband, please check:
“Visual Bazi: Wealth Secrets and Maximization” w/ 18 hr. HD video

If you do not understand the Bazi terminology here, you may check:
http://kenlaifengshui.blogspot.com/2011/05/4p-bazi-terminology-conventions.html

Ken Lai
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“Professional Imperial QMDJ 4G” w/ 21 hr. video
“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
“EZ QMDJ Advanced Feng Shui” with 4 hr. HD video
“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ 2020 edition” with 18 hr. video

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Are you suitable to date a cougar or older woman? 姐弟恋

Men with certain personality characteristics can handle older women as lovers or wives better than others.  Most of these specific personalty traits are innate or born with.  By checking the natal chart of a man, we can predict if he is a better candidate to date or marry older woman or "cougar".

Below are the Bazi characteristics of men for dating older women.  Please check the personality section of your Bazi books or ask your teacher for explanation.

(Daymaster or DM below means the man in question)

1.  Daymaster (DM) sits on -power star (qi-sha)
People with the following day-pillars sit on -power star: Yi-you, Wu-yin, JI-mao, Ren-xu, Gui-wei and Gui-chou.

2.  DM sits on +power star (zheng-guan)
People with the following day-pillars sit on +power star: Bing-zi, Ding-hai, Geng-wu and Xin-si. 

3.  DM sits on +resource star (zheng-yin)
People with the following day-pillar sit on +resource star: Ji-zi, Yi-hai, Wu-wu and Ji-si. 

4.  DM sits on -resource star (pian-yin)
People with the following day-pillar sit on -resource star:  Bing-Yin, Ding-mao, Geng-chen, Geng-xu, Xin-wei, Xin-chou, Ren-shen and Gui-you.

5.  DM combines with a nearby stem
Below are the two types of DM combinations

a. Yang DM combines with wealth element (zheng-cai) sitting in month or hour pillar:

• Jia-wood DM combines with Ji-earth
• Bing-fire DM combines with Xin-metal 
• Wu-earth DM combines with Gui-water 
• Geng-metal DM combines with Yi-wood 
• Ren-water DM combines with Ding-fire 

b. Yin DM combines with power element (zheng-guan) sitting in month or hour pillar:

• Yi-wood DM combines with Geng-metal 
• Ding-fire DM combines with Ren-water 
• Ji-earth DM combines with Jia-wood 
• Xin-metal DM combines with Bing-fire
• Gui-water DM combines with Wu-earth 

If it is too late for you to find an older woman, you at the least know who you should date when you are "free" again.

Friendly reminder:  You may go to a bottomless hell for eternity if you use this article as pretext to divorce your wife.

If you do not understand the Bazi terminology here, you may check:
http://kenlaifengshui.blogspot.com/2011/05/4p-bazi-terminology-conventions.html

Ken Lai
© 2020 Ken Lai, all rights reserved.

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“Advanced Visual Form Feng Shui” 2020 w/23 hr. HD video
“Visual Form Feng Shui” w/13 hr. HD video
“Applied Bazi: Sickness Forecasting and Management” w/33 hr. HD video 
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
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“Practical Date-Selection Methods 2020 (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
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“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
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“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ 2020 edition” with 18 hr. video

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Will you get both wealth and love in 2019?

"When will you get both wealth and love at the same time?" is one of the chapters in my upcoming "Wealth Bazi" course (NOT a get-rich-quick course).  In that chapter, I have used the Bazi features of people who will likely get both love and wealth in 2019 ji-hai year as illustration.  I have extracted some of the contents below for this blog.

Many people fantasies getting both love and wealth through romance or marriage.  But the harsh reality is that not everyone is equipped to get wealthy and love through romance EVEN for those with pretty or handsome faces.  We have to look into the romance or peach blossom elements in their Bazi charts first.  In other words, it is already written in one's destiny.

This chapter answers the question of when one is likely to get both love and wealth.  Below are the specific timing and conditions (we use 2019 ji-hai year as example, you may figure out the rest by substituting different daymaster (DM) and annual lucks).   For Bazi terminology convention used here, check:

http://kenlaifengshui.blogspot.com/2011/05/4p-bazi-terminology-conventions.html

PEOPLE WHO ARE LIKELY TO GET LOVE AND WEALTH IN 2019

1.  Male who is a strong jia/ yi-wood or wu/ ji-earth DM and also in strong wealth (zheng-cai/ pian-cai) luck region, will likely get both love and wealth.

2.  Female who is a strong ren/ gui-water or bing/ ding-fire DM and also in strong power (zheng-guan/ qi-sha) luck region, will likely getting both love and wealth. 

3.  Jia-wood male DM combines with ji-earth in 2019 (ji-hai).  Ding-fire female DM combines with ren-water +power star (hidden in hai).  Ji-earth female DM combines with jia-wood +power star (hidden in hai).  These combinations with annual wealth and power luck reflect potentials for getting both wealth and love for the DM.

4.  For 2019 ji-hai year, ji-hai is the strong output annual luck for bing, ding, geng and xin DMs.  These DMs are likely to have "getting both love and wealth" events if they have strong output stars in their natal chart already.

5.  For 2019 ji-hai year, charts with mao, wei, yin, zi, chou and wu in the branches, are likely to have "wealth and love" events due to combination/s with annual luck branch  (Note: hai-mao-wei wood 3-unities, yin-hai combination, hai-zi-chou water 3-meetings, hai-wu hidden combination).

(Original chapter has more detailed explanations) 

FINAL REMARKS

While one's chart may look getting "both love and wealth", one still needs to check if power star (as in female DM) or wealth star (for male) is favorable to him or her.  If favorable, everything will be great and happy.  If not, it could mean losing wealth for male DM and being implicated/ hurt emotionally/ physically by males for female DM.  

  

Ken Lai
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“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
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How to check marital bliss: self edition

Believe it or not, you can find out if your marriage rocks, so-so or sucks from the day-pillar of your Bazi chart.

The first part or stem of your day-pillar represents you, the "daymaster" or DM.  The second part or branch is the "spouse palace" and represents your spouse.  The "star" sits in your spouse palace will give you a glimpse of your marital bliss.

Don't worry if you do not know Bazi.  You can read the Appendix below to figure out your day-pillar using your birthday.


MARITAL BLISS IN TERMS OF DAY-BRANCH

1.  Male day branch with zheng-cai or pian-cai  (wealth star)
Day Pillars:  Yi-chou, Yi-wei, Bing-shen, Ding-you, Wu-zi, Ji-hai, Geng-yin and Ren-wu.  乙丑，乙未，丙申，丁酉，戊子，己亥，庚寅，壬午
-- Wealth is the wife star for a male daymaster.  Wealth sits in spouse palace for a man is called "Star and palace in the same place" 宫星同位.  This usually stands for a happy and perfect marriage.  If wealth star is also favorable, it means this man getting rich through wife or enjoying wife's wealth. (Rating: Best)
 
2.  Female day branch with zheng-guan or qi-sha (power star)
Day Pillars:  Jia-shen, Yi-you, Ding-hai, Ji-mao, Geng-wu, Xin-si, Gui-chou and Gui-wei. 甲申，乙酉，丁亥，己卯，庚午，辛巳，癸丑，癸未
-- Power is the husband star for a female daymaster.  Power star sits in spouse palace for a woman is called "Star and palace in the same place" 宫星同位.  This usually stands for a happy and perfect marriage.  If power star is also favorable, it means this couple love each other deeply and enjoy fame and wealth. (Rating: Best) 

3.  Both male and female day branch with zheng-yin or pian-yin (resource star) 
Day Pillars:  Jia-zi, Yi-hai, Bing-yin, Ding-mao, Wu-wu, Ji-si, Geng-chen, Geng-xu, Xin-chou, Xin-wei, Ren-shen and Gui-you 甲子，乙亥，丙寅，丁卯，戊午，己巳，庚辰，庚戌，辛丑，辛未，壬申，癸酉
-- Resource stands for mother or older generation.  Resource star sits in your spouse palace means your spouse is like your mother nurturing and pampering you.  A Chinese saying goes "Marrying a mother-like wife or father-like husband" 娶妻像娘，嫁夫如父 .  This usually stands for a happy marriage.  It would be perfect If resource star is also favorable.  (Rating: Good)

4.  Daymaster sitting on Shi-shen or Shang-guan (output star)
Day Pillars:  Jia-wu, Yi-si, Bing-chen, Bing-xu, Ji-you, Geng-zi, Xin-hai, Ren-yin and Gui-mao. 甲午，乙巳，丙辰，丙戌，己酉，庚子，辛亥，壬寅，癸卯
-- For male, output star nurtures wealth or wife star. So even output star is not the right star to sit in spouse palace, it still enhances wife star.  This situation will be good for strong male DM that favors wealth star (means a good marriage), but unfavorable for weak male DM (implying a disharmonious marriage). (Rating: OK)
-- For female, output star controls power or husband star. So not only output star is not the right star to sit in spouse palace, it further hurts husband star.  This usually means a less than satisfactory marriage if not jinxing the husband. (Rating: Bad)

5.  Daymaster sitting on  Bi-jian or Jie-cai (peer star)
Day Pillars:  Jia-yin, Yi-mao, Bing-wu, Ding-si, Wu-xu, Wu-chen, Ji-wei, Ji-chou, Geng-shen, Xin-you, Ren-zi and Gui-hai. 甲寅，乙卯，丙午，丁巳，戊戌，戊辰，己未，己丑，庚申，辛酉，壬子，癸亥
--Peer star stands for competitions, friends and siblings which will "snatch" wealth away.  When it sits in the spouse palace, it means competition to take your spouse away if not jinxing the wife! 
-- For male DM, with peer instead of wealth star inside spouse palace, it is the "sign" for wife being "snatched" away.  This means marital disharmony and affair. (Rating: Bad)
-- For female DM, with peer instead of wealth star inside spouse palace, it is the "sign" for husband being "snatched" away.  Wealth nurtures power (husband) in Bazi.  But peer "snatches" wealth away and weakens the husband.  This means marital disharmony and affair.  This also has a relatively higher divorce rate. (Rating: OK)

This is a quick-and-easy way to check one's marital bliss.  A more accurate reading would be taking into consideration of other stars and not just the star inside the spouse palace.

For possible remedies, consult my video courses below:
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video

Coming Attraction:  In next blog, I will use this marital bliss theory to create an easy mate-selection guide. This guide will take over an hour to explain in live seminar but you can use it in a flash with my data reduction technique used in the blog.

APPENDIX:  How to find out your day-pillar
1.  Log into http://bazi-calculator.com/
2.  Type in your birthday
3.  Click "Calculate" button
4.  Check the "Day" column (second column) of the table in the left side
5.  The example here shows a Wu-Chen day-pillar

Ken Lai

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“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
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Bazi: Spotting out wife-jinxer/ beater in a flash

Hi girls!  Today is your lucky day.  This article may save you from an abusive relationship or a trip to divorce court.  It shows you how to spot out a potential wife-jinxer/ beater using the birthday of your potential partner.

"Wife-jinxer" here means this man will unlikely bring good life/ blessing to his wife.  He may jinx his wife to death and is a potential wife-beater.

To check your potential mate before developing a relationship, first of all, you need the birthday of the potential partner.  Then follow the instructions in the appendix here to find out the data required for making the decision.

After you have found the "daymaster" of your potential mate, match it with the following table:

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For example, your potential partner is a Bing-fire daymaster.  You check his Bazi chart to see if there is any Ding-fire and/or Si-fire.  If there is one or more, check if there is any Ren-, Gui-, Zi- or Hai-water in the chart.  If you see NONE, you better stay away from this man.  But if you must have this man, consult a Bazi reader to see if this man has a special chart.  If so, then he could still be your potential partner.  The probability of someone has a special chart is about 20%.

What to do if this man does not have a special chart and you still want him? (beauty loves "bad boy" syndrome?)  Here is your last hope-- check your own Bazi chart to see if you are a husband-jinxer (consult a Bazi reader or wait till I write about how to spot a husband-jinxer).  When a wife-jinxer and a husband-jinxer marry, the jinxes between them will be neutralized.

If unfortunately or fortunately that you are not a husband-jinxer, the last resort is to consult the courses below to mitigate the possible jinxes through Bazi and Feng Shui techniques (click link for details):
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video

For people who want to know the logic behind this wife-jinxer Bazi, the answers are posted in my  Bazi/ 4P groups.   You may want to take my 4P/ Bazi courses listed below if you are not a member of my groups.  However, if you have basic Bazi knowledge, you may easily figure out the dynamics behind.  After you have figured out the wife-jinxer logic, husband-jinxer logic will pop up in your mind in no time.

APPENDIX:  How to find the day-master of your boy friend:
1.  Log into http://bazi-calculator.com/
2.  Type in his birthday
3.  Click "Calculate" button
4.  Check the "Day" column of the table in the left side
5.  The example here shows a Wu-earth DM with Chou-earth (not good!), BUT there is a Yi-wood here to control earth, so this guy is "salvageable".

Ken Lai

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“Visual Form Feng Shui” w/13 hr. HD video
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“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Feng Shui Toolbox: Sha-qi, Health/Wealth and Career” w/ 7 hr. HD video
“Period 7/8 FS Toolkit w/ Advanced Flying Star techniques” w/ 6 hr. HD video
“Practical Date-Selection Methods (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
“Practical Imperial Qi-Men-Dun-Jia 4G” w/ 12 hr. video
“Professional Imperial QMDJ 4G” w/ 21 hr. video
“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
“EZ QMDJ Advanced Feng Shui” with 4 hr. HD video
“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ 2018 edition” with 18 hr. video

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