"Jiě dì liàn" ("elder sister romance with a younger man") is the Chinese term for relationship between a man with an older woman. In America, this is called "cougar" dating younger man who are 6- 20 years younger. This type of romance is common among career women who have "missed" the prime time for relationship with the same age cohort due to putting priority on career over romance.
If you are one of these "older women" and want to try your romance luck with younger males, this article will help you find the "better" guy for success.
The info below is also good for men under 30 years old if they want to check their suitability of dating an older women.
This is done by checking the birth chart of the man who the older woman dates. Check his Bazi chart for the following characteristics:
Note: Go to the Appendix below to learn how to find the "daymaster" and "day-pillar" if you have no idea.
MALE CHART CHARACTERISTICS FOR ROMANCE WITH OLDER WOMAN
#1 ranked characteristic: Daymaster sitting on -power star (qi-sha)
Daymaster or DM means the birth chart owner which is the day-stem of the day-pillar in a chart. Where DM sits on is called "spouse palace" which reflects type of spouse the person will meet. Power star is authority figure in Bazi. -Power star (qi-sha) is like a dictator or a strict boss. A male with -power star sitting in spouse palace needs a tough boss to manage him. A mature and older woman is perfect to provide guidance for him. The day-pillars below have -power star sitting in spouse palace:
-Power day-pillars: Jia-shen, Wu-yin, Ji-mao, Ren-xu, Gui-wei, Ren-chen and Gui-chou
#2 ranked characteristic: Daymaster sitting on +power star (zheng-guan)
+ Power star is also an authority figure. Whereas -power star (qi-sha) is like a dictator or a strict boss, +power is like like a parent or teacher with good intentions and rule with softer approaches and good intentions. A male with +power star sitting in spouse palace needs a gentle parent to guide him. An older or sisterly woman is perfect for him. The day-pillars below have +power star sitting in spouse palace:
+Power day-pillars: Bing-zi, Ding-hai, Geng-wu and Xin-si
#3 ranked characteristic: Daymaster sitting on +resource star (zheng-yin)
+ Resource star is a nurturing or motherly figure or older woman. Man born in +resource day tends to be shy, kind and dependent. Hence a mature and older woman or motherly figure would fit him well. The day-pillars below have +resource star sitting in spouse palace:
+Resource day-pillars: Jia-zi, Yi-hai, Wu-wu and Ji-si
#4 ranked characteristic: Daymaster sitting on -resource star (pian-yin)
- Resource star is also a nurturing or motherly figure. Man born in -resource day tends to be cold, introvert with poor social skills. Hence a mature and sociable woman or motherly figure would help him integrate with society better. The day-pillars below have -resource star sitting in spouse palace:
-Resource day-pillars: Bing-yin, Ding-mao, Geng-chen, Geng-xu, Xin-wei, Xin-chou, Ren-shen and Gui-you.
If you want to know more about Bazi or if your potential partner will be faithful or not, the following course gives you the most for your money:
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ ″ w/ 18 hr. video
If you have problem with the Bazi terms in this blog, please check:
Ken's Cyber Cave: 4P/ Bazi Terminology Conventions (kenlaifengshui.blogspot.com)
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APPENDIX: FIND A PERSON'S DAY-PILLAR AND DAYMASTER
1. Log in to www.bazi-calculator.com
2. In the right-side of the screen panel box, select "Ken Lai Method". No need to bother with anything else.
3. Key in the guy's birthday and hour in the left side of the screen. Ignore the right side screen for "date to compare".
4. Click the "calculate" box to get results.
5. Scroll down the screen and see his Bazi chart in the left side with a table similar to the one here.
6. The first box of second column (the one with "day master" in it) shows the elemental nature of his daymaster (example here is geng-metal in grey color). Below are the colors of 5 elements:
- Metal (Geng and Xin) in grey color (power star is Fire and resource is Earth Wood)
- Wood (Jia and Yi) in green color (power star is Metal and resource is Water)
- Water (Ren and Gui) in blue color (power star is Earth and resource is Metal)
- Fire (Bing and Ding) in red color (power star is Water and resource is Wood)
- Earth (Wu and Ji) in yellow color (power star is Wood and resource is Fire)
Video Correspondence Courses: (click for details)
“Visual Bazi: Wealth Secrets and Maximization” w/ 18 hr. HD video
“Advanced Visual Form Feng Shui” w/23 hr. HD video
“Visual Form Feng Shui” w/13 hr. HD video
“Applied Bazi: Sickness Forecasting and Management” w/33 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Luck Enhancement and Misfortune Mitigation with Bazi and Feng Shui” w/ 45 hrs. HD video
“Feng Shui Toolbox: Sha-qi, Health/Wealth and Career” w/ 7 hr. HD video
“Period 7/8 FS Toolkit w/ Advanced Flying Star techniques” w/ 6 hr. HD video
“Practical Date-Selection Methods (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
“Practical Imperial Qi-Men-Dun-Jia 4G” w/ 12 hr. video
“Professional Imperial QMDJ 4G” w/ 21 hr. video
“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
“EZ QMDJ Advanced Feng Shui” with 4 hr. HD video
“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ ″ w/ 18 hr. video
