Identify lazy people using only their birthday 懒人八字

Most people prefer not partner with or hiring lazy persons.  This article discusses how to identify lazy people using only their date of birth with Chinese Bazi astrology.  No probation or trial period needed.

BAZI CHART CHARACTERISTICS OF LAZY PERSONS

Chart with 3 or more resource stars (zheng-yin/ pian-yin):  Resource stars represent senior generations, parental help, blessing and academic credentials.  Chart with strong resource stars implies the chart owner ("daymaster", DM) is likely getting the blessing and support from his/ her seniors.  S/he is prone to become dependent, lacking motivation to achieve more, conservative, traditional and physically weak.  If annual luck comes another resource star,  s/he is likely to be lazy and happy to keep "business as usual" and resistant to change.

Chart has NO wealth stars (zheng-cai/ pian-cai):  In Bazi, wealth stars represent desires, abilities and persistence for goal attainment.  People with no wealth star in their chart lacks motivation, willingness to work towards goals and look down on material gains and interests.  This is like an engine without power and not moving much.

Chart with 3 or more -output stars (shi-shen):  -Output star represents talent and enjoying life.  People with strong -output stars in their chart thinks too much, fantasizes a lot but does little.  They like enjoying life and good food.  Many of them have big belly with a plump body.  They are sloppy and careless at work and daily lives.  This situation is especially worse if their chart has no wealth star.  DM will fantasizes more and withdraw when running into difficulty.

The above situations are not absolute.  We need to look at the whole natal chart to determine if this person is indeed a lazy one.  For example, if a chart with excess resource stars but has at least one wealth star to control them, DM's laziness will be under control.  Similar logic and interpretation for excess -output stars when resource star is presented in the chart.

Human laziness can be positive.  People who are lazy but with a sense of responsibility would invent or create new methods or tools to make do things and tasks faster, so they can be "lazy" but still get the jobs done.

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DIY psychological therapy

Nine years ago, I had written about an inexpensive psychological therapy:
http://kenlaifengshui.blogspot.com/2010/06/beating-up-mean-people-around-you.html

A few days ago, I saw this journal for sale in the World Market store:

This is a simple way to send your worries away.  You may even use your favorite plush animals instead of Worry Dolls by telling your worries to them.  The advantage of this method is that no one will spread your worries to the world.  Psychologists are pretty much doing the same thing-- listening to your worries, feeding back the worries to you and then charging you US$100- 200 per hour.  Your old worries may be gone but you have a new worry of paying the bills.

While I was a graduate student at the University of Minnesota 40+ years ago, I had assisted a social psychology professor to conduct a cross-cultural research on dreams.  I ran into an interesting folklore practice of handling nightmares in a certain Chinese region.  I still remember the details without checking any files.

When people in this Chinese region had a bad dream, they would write this poem on a city wall:

昨夜夢不祥，寫在西牆，各方君子讀一遍，解難消災。

"Last nite I have dreamed of inauspicious omen
I write this on the west wall
Gentlemen from all walks of life read this once
Will dissolve my misfortunes and disasters"

This method of self-counseling also keeps one's identity and nightmare secret.  It can be easily modified to handle other psychological events by replacing "dreamed of inauspicious omen" with other events.

In internet age, you may not want to write this poem on city wall.  You can post it on bulletin board or even online anonymously.  

Ken Lai
© 2019 Ken Lai, all rights reserved.

Disclaimer:  This DIY self-therapy does NOT replace standard professional psychological counseling/ therapy.  Use at your own risk.  You are strongly advised to see a licensed professional if you think you have psychological problems.

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12 Worrisome Birth Months of Chinese Zodiac Animals 属相十二愁月

In Chinese astrology, everyone is assigned an animal sign from a pool of 12 animals based on the birth year.  This article discloses a rarely taught secret of "12 worrisome birth months".

People who were born in their "worrisome month" of their own specific birth animal sign likely to have the following characteristics:

Personality:  worrisome, gloomy, grumpy, down, pessimistic and feel disaster coming anytime, self-defeatist, "shooting oneself in the foot" type.

Life chances and social interactions:  not getting along with neighbors and family relatives, loner and quiet type, lacking friends, marital problems and career problems. 

HOW TO CALCULATE YOUR WORRISOME MONTH
Worrisome month is calculate in terms of solar months (it is about a month slower than western month).  The easiest way to calculate it is to use the bazi-calculator link below, key in your birthday and check the left side table as shown below:
https://bazi-calculator.com/

The example below is to check someone with December 4, 1980 birthday was born in his worrisome month or not.  The birth animal sign is monkey for the person and birth month is pig or hai.

Then we check the list of worrisome month in terms of birth animal sign below.  The worrisome month for monkey sign is pig or hai month.  Hence this person was born in a worrisome month  (potential client for psychologist). 

The followings are worrisome months based on Chinese zodiac animal signs: 

RAT (years born: 1948, 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996, 2008, 2020, 2032, 2044) 
Worrisome month:  rabbit or mao (second solar month)

OX (years born: 1937, 1949, 1961, 1973,  1985, 1997, 2009, 2021, 2033, 2045) 
Worrisome month:  dragon or chen  (third solar month)

TIGER (years born: 1938, 1950, 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998, 2010, 2022,  2034 ) 
Worrisome month:  pig or hai (10th solar month)
 
RABBIT (years born: 1939, 1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999, 2011, 2023,  2035 ) 
Worrisome month:  horse or wu month (fifth solar month)
 
DRAGON (years born: 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976,  1988, 2000, 2012, 2024, 2036) 
Worrisome month:  ox or chou (twelfth solar month)
 
SNAKE (years born: 1941, 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001, 2013,  2025, 2037) 
Worrisome month:  tiger or yin month  (first solar month)
 
HORSE (years born: 1942, 1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002, 2014, 2026, 2038, 2050)  
Worrisome month:  rooster or you month  (eighth solar month)

RAM (years born: 1931, 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003, 2015, 2027, 2039 )
Worrisome month:  dog or xu month (ninth solar month)
 
MONKEY (years born: 1944, 1956, 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004, 2016,  2028, 2040)
Worrisome month:  snake or si month (fourth solar month)
 
ROOSTER (years born: 1945, 1957, 1969, 1981,  1993, 2005, 2017, 2029, 2041)  
Worrisome month:  rat or  zi month (eleventh solar month)
 
DOG (years born: 1934, 1946, 1958, 1970,  1982, 1994, 2006, 2018, 2030, 2042)
Worrisome month:  ram or wei month  (sixth solar month)
 
PIG  (years born: 1935, 1947, 1959, 1971, 1983, 1994, 2007, 2019, 2031, 2043 )
Worrisome month:  monkey or shen month  (seventh solar month)

"Ken, can you explain the rationale behind these worrisome months?"

This will take 12 letter-sized pages to explain.  Most of you will have no patience to read and me no time to write.  For the intellectually curious-- this has something to do with the interactions between the hidden elements inside the animal signs and the "12 life stages of stem" theory.

Now psychologists have one more tool to diagnose depression-- to check if the patient was born in a worrisome month.

Ken Lai
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Never mind the dogs, BEWARE of the owner

The following was written on July 20, 2007

"Never mind the dogs, BEWARE of the owner!" My neighbor across the street put up this sign in his
backyard.

A good doctor should not get sick and live forever or s/he is a lousy doctor.

In reality, doctors gets sick and die eventually just like everybody else.

A good Chinese metaphysics teacher (FS and 4P included) should be free of the misfortunes (sickness,
divorce, partnership dispute...) or s/he is not a good one.

In reality, Chinese metaphysics teachers are just like anybody else, suffer the misfortunes of life.  At most
they may be able to minimize it or avoid it to a certain extent.  They will die just like everybody
else.

It seems that some people place high expectation on metaphysics teachers--- they should be spiritual,
infallible, do not eat, giving profound knowledge away for free or charge next to nothing, no divorce, no
sickness, no partnership split, no employee problem, have male descendants to carry their lineage, should
be rich, should be humble (better if they kiss your ass) and wash your feet.

In short, they should be as holy as Delai Lama.

Metaphysics teachers are no more holier or dirtier than whatever you are doing for a living.  Like other
commercial or business behaviors, they advertise or boast like crazy to attract customers (or students).
Few would make a living if they shut up and waiting for students to come.

It is up to you to decide if you want to shell out your hard-earned dollars to them.  They do not force
you to give them money.

Free market mechanisms will sooner or later drive out the ones who do not meet consumer's needs and
expectation.

If you rarely or will not buy anything from these teachers, why should you worry or angry about what
they do or say?


Ken Lai
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4P YOUR WAY TO THE BANK

Think this is another "get rich quick" scheme to get
you taking another seminar?

You are right AND wrong at the same time.

In this little message, I'll show you how to use 4P
knowledge to make money. But unlike other marketers,
I tell you upfront that this is not for everyone. If
you have the talent of whining (I mean "writing") a
lot from very minuscule things or if you can turn
simple thing into something very complicated and
profound, then this is your lucky day.

If you go to the "Self-help" section of any big
bookstores, you will find books based on a simple
human weakness and make a huge fuss out of it. For
example, a writer (to avoid lawsuit, let me call her
"Jane") has observed that people keep staying in an
abusive relationship even though they keep on whining
about it. Jane has created a catchy term for this
phenomenon-- "co-dependency". Then a long series of
books, tapes, seminars and other derivative incomes
roll in.

"Co-dependence" is similar to the "self-penalty"
concept described by 4P theory, that people have a
tendency to shoot themselves in their own feet.

You can find similar inspirations from 4P, like
"3-penalties", "6 harms".... Just look at my free
4Pbackground.pdf file for more "self-help book"
ideas (send private email to kenlai93@yahoo.com for a
copy).

So if you study your 4P well, you can write books like
Jane and become filthy rich. But it is not for me or
everyone. You need to be a good whiner or writer.

<<>>

WHAT IS "SELF-PENALTY" (¦Û¦D)
When 4P was still in its developmental stage about a
thousand years ago, there was no cable TV or National
Enquirer to read, so the ancient scholars got lots of
time to beat up their 4P components.

One day, a white beard guy put "3-meeting" (3M) and
"3-unity" (3U) combinations side and side and
presto, we got something new to play with. (please
refer to my 4Pbackground.pdf file if you don't
understand these terms).

METAL 3M: shen - you - xu
METAL 3U: si - you - chou

FIRE 3M: si - wu - wei
FIRE 3U: yin - wu - xu

WATER 3M: hai - zi - chou
WOOD 3U: hai - mao - wei

WOOD 3M: yin - mao - chen
WATER 3U: shen - zi - chen

You can get quite a few "self-help" book writing
ideas from these 4 groups of combinations here. But
until I've cashed your checks, I'll talk only about
the "self-penalty" or identical pairs listed above.

You-you (rooster)
Wu-wu (horse)
Hai-hai (pig)
Chen-chen (dragon)

These 4 pairs are considered as "self-penalty".
Since there are 12 possible branches or animals in a
4P chart, we get at least 33% chance to have one of
these "self-penalizing" elements in our chart. When
annual luck or 10 year luck is also of the same
"self-penalizing" element, the day-master of the chart
or the person represented by that element is likely to
"self-penalizing" himself or herself.

It is not unusual for a chart with more than one of
these "self-penalizing" elements, then the
day-master of the chart gets more chances to make
his/her life miserable.

"This might be a "self-penalty" when a guy wants to
have sex but his "little brother" refuses to stand
up."

"This might be a "self-penalty" when a person knows
dessert is bad for him/ her but eats it anyway."

If you think of the redneck comedian Jeff Foxworth,
then you have a good capitalistic mind.
This is another millionaire-making opportunity if you
become the first "self-penalty" standup comedian or
comedienne-- just think of the TV series, book deals
and merchandising rights.

There are lots of money-making opportunities if you
learn your 4P well, just like eating your veggie.

Well, let's go back to "self-penalty" before you
self-penalize yourself by not taking my class.

The theory behind "self-penalty" is flimsy and not
too logical at all.

Zi, wu, mao, and you are the four cardinal directions
and also have the purest form of energy among the 12
branches. So if we say "wu penalizes wu" and "you
penalizes you", it may make sense since two strong
energies of same nature may repell each other.

But hai is water and chen is water storage. Both are
not strong or pure energy like wu and you. So the
theoretical background for these two penalties is
shaky.

Well, many smart 4P guys in previous generations have
whined about this inconsistency like yours truly here,
but they use the formula anyway-- because it is a
universal human phenomenon of shooting one's own foot
all the time. Some may call it "obsession",
"co-dependence", "compulsive behavior",
"self-destructive".......

If not, self-help book writers, psychologists and
motivational speakers will be out of business.

"My dad, wife and daughter are all roosters, but I
have yet to see them hit their head with a 2x4. I
think I may need to finish the job myself."

(2005 is the year of rooster)

If you do not understand the joke above, I'll charge
you double and ask the 4P god to change the branches
of your 4P chart to hai, chen, you and wu.


Copyright 2005, Ken Lai, All rights reserved.

Ken Lai
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