Showing posts with label loyalty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label loyalty. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 10, 2025

Predicting your years with better romance or marriage luck 八字看情人姻缘

How do you find out which year that you may have better romance or marriage luck?

You can find the clues in your Bazi birth chart.  If you do not know your own "daymaster" element, please go to www.bazi-calculator.com, key in your birthday and find your "daymaster"  in the top row of the day column.

In Bazi, annual luck (means current year) shows the possible events that might happen to a person.  The year stem reflects what can be seen by the public.  Hence if the year stem is the element representing wealth star (zheng-cai/ pian-cai, wife/ lover for male) or power star (zheng-guan/ qi-sha, husband/ lover for female), it means the likelihood of lover or marriage partner showing up in that year.

You don't need to know what is "year stem" as long as you can read the last digit of each year like the "5" in 2025-- simply read the tables below to find your years of better love luck.

The tables below summarize the exact year that lover or marriage partner is more likely to show up.  For example, a Jia-wood male daymaster (person), will likely run into romance (if single) or affair (if married) when a year with last digit 0 (Geng-metal year, e.g., 2030).   The same person may get married in a Xin-metal year (e.g., 2031) if he is single.  Similar logic is applied for female daymasters too.

YEARS WITH BETTER LOVER AND MARRIAGE LUCK TABLE


SUPER BONUS:  This is another BOGO article.  You may use the year reference of these tables to keep an eye on your spouse or lover during his or her "love luck" years, followed by wife or husband luck years.  For example, if your girl friend or wife is a Geng-metal person, you pay extra attention to her activities during Bing-fire  (e.g. 2026) and Ding-fire years (2027).  Bing-fire year is more "dangerous".  If your boy friend or husband is a Geng-person, it would be years with the last digit 4 or 5.

If you want to know more about Bazi and wealth topics, please check the following courses:

“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ ″ w/ 18 hr. video 

“Visual Bazi: Wealth Secrets and Maximization” w/ 18 hr. HD video

Ken Lai

Video Correspondence Courses: (click for details)

“Visual Bazi: Wealth Secrets and Maximization” w/ 18 hr. HD video
“Advanced Visual Form Feng Shui”  w/23 hr. HD video
“Visual Form Feng Shui” w/13 hr. HD video
“Applied Bazi: Sickness Forecasting and Management” w/33 hr. HD video 
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Luck Enhancement and Misfortune Mitigation with Bazi and Feng Shui” w/ 45 hrs. HD video
“Feng Shui Toolbox: Sha-qi, Health/Wealth and Career” w/ 7 hr. HD video
“Period 9 Feng Shui Bible w/ P8/ 9 Period Upgrade Advisor” w/ 14 hr. HD video
“Practical Date-Selection Methods (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
“Practical Imperial Qi-Men-Dun-Jia 4G” w/ 12 hr. video
“Professional Imperial QMDJ 4G” w/ 21 hr. video
“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
“EZ QMDJ Advanced Feng Shui” with 4 hr. HD video
“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ ″ w/ 18 hr. video 

http://www.kenlaifengshui.com

Thursday, March 21, 2024

Missing element/s and personality 五行命理解說

In previous article we have discussed what may happen when a chart has missing transformation stars or "10-gods".  In this article we focus on the missing element in a Bazi chart.

According to Chinese cosmology, the world is formed with 5 basic elements or primal energies represented by water, wood, fire, earth and metal.  Human destiny is determined by the interplay of this 5 basic energies.  All living organisms survive under the natural rules and restrictions of 5-elements.

For the Chinese Daoists, the only way to achieving true freedom and immortality is to: 

"Hop out of the 3 realms and live outside the boundary of 5-elements 跳出三界外,不在五行中".   (Note: 三界 "3-realms" is triloka-- sensory, form and formless realms)

Whereas missing transformation star focuses primarily on the social and family aspect, missing elements are more onto the personality of the chart owner or daymaster. 

People with a completed set of 5-elements in their birth charts are the relatively blessed group and have long life expectancy.  They are likely to live a stable/ peaceful life with no major ups and downs (but not necessarily rich and famous).  If they run into obstacles or setbacks, they are likely going through them without a scratch.

If one's chart has a weak or missing element, one is likely has some aspects of life missing or obstacles related to that element.  Below are the meanings of missing a element in a chart

MEANINGS OF WEAK OR MISSING ELEMENT

1.  Weak or missing water element:  Water element is exemplified as ocean, sea, river, lake and stream in nature.  Water stands for intelligence in Chinese metaphysics.  Water flows downward and has no shape.  It's form changes with the container holding it.  When applying water nature to the personality of an individual with strong water, it implies s/he is smart, flexible, a quick learner, adaptive to changes and sociable.  But s/he could be flowery, promiscuous and cunning if water is too strong.  In contrary, one with weak or missing water element will be rigid, inflexible, having problems adapting to changes, lacking planning and not too smart.

2.  Weak or missing wood element:  Wood element is exemplified as trees, plants, grass and flowers in nature.  Wood stands for kindness in Chinese metaphysics.  Wood is solid and grows upward.  When applying wood nature to the personality of an individual with strong wood, it implies s/he is upright, kind, moving forward and not a quitter.  But s/he could be stubborn, cruel and inflexible if wood is too strong.  In contrary, one with weak or missing wood element will be indecisive, unkind, lacking stamina and motivation to achieve goals, prone to withdrawal and lacking persistence.

3.  Weak or missing fire element:  Fire element is exemplified as the sun, moon, stars and flames in nature.  Fire stands for courtesy in Chinese metaphysics.  Fire or flame is "hollow" and burns upward.  It is the strongest form of yang energy.  When applying fire nature to the personality of an individual with strong fire, it implies s/he is polite, cultured, proactive, enthusiastic and cheerful.  But s/he could be impatient and hot-tempered if fire is too strong.  In contrary, one with weak or missing fire element will be a laggard, impolite, lazy, lacking enthusiasm and has problems achieving goals.

4.  Weak or missing earth element:  Earth element is exemplified as the field, plains, soil, sands, mountain and rocks in nature.  Earth stands for trust/ faith in Chinese metaphysics.  Earth is stable and gives rise to "everything"  ("mother earth" gives rise to plants/ metal and etc.).   When applying earth nature to the personality of an individual with strong earth, it implies s/he is trustworthy, keeping promise, honest, reliable, inclusive, reputable and stable.  But s/he could be inflexible and rigid if earth is too strong.  In contrary, one with weak or missing earth element will be lacking credibility/ trust and impulsive.

5.  Weak or missing metal element:  Metal element is exemplified as the metal ores and precious stones in nature.  Metal stands for righteousness in Chinese metaphysics.  Metal is rough and tough.  When applying metal nature to the personality of an individual with strong metal, it implies s/he is full of righteousness, authoritative, loyalty,  fighting injustice, not hesitating to take action against evils/ criminals, can achieve major feats and is leadership material.  But s/he could be rigid and vengeful if metal is too strong.  In contrary, one with weak or missing metal element will be lacking authority, indecisive and worrying too much.

In conclusion, a weak or missing element in a chart can release critical social, familial and personality data of the daymaster or chart-owner.  This info is very useful for looking for friendship, dating and business partners.

If you want to know more about Bazi, please take the following course:

“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ ″ w/ 18 hr. video 

Ken Lai


Video Correspondence Courses: (click for details)

“Visual Bazi: Wealth Secrets and Maximization” w/ 18 hr. HD video
“Advanced Visual Form Feng Shui”  w/23 hr. HD video
“Visual Form Feng Shui” w/13 hr. HD video
“Applied Bazi: Sickness Forecasting and Management” w/33 hr. HD video 
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Luck Enhancement and Misfortune Mitigation with Bazi and Feng Shui” w/ 45 hrs. HD video
“Feng Shui Toolbox: Sha-qi, Health/Wealth and Career” w/ 7 hr. HD video
“Period 9 Feng Shui Bible w/ P8/ 9 Period Upgrade Advisor” w/ 14 hr. HD video
“Practical Date-Selection Methods (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
“Practical Imperial Qi-Men-Dun-Jia 4G” w/ 12 hr. video
“Professional Imperial QMDJ 4G” w/ 21 hr. video
“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
“EZ QMDJ Advanced Feng Shui” with 4 hr. HD video
“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ ″ w/ 18 hr. video 

http://www.kenlaifengshui.com

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Dog has no "bystander problem"

On June 13, 2017, a white dog was hit by a car and died on the road in China's Nantong City of Jiangsu Province.  The deceased dog's friend, a black dog, had pulled it from the busy traffic to roadside and tried to "revive" it by shaking and pulling the dead body.

Dog is the best friend of any species. The video below speaks volumes:
(viewer discretion: may be offensive to some).


Only a few days ago, also in China, a report of a gruesome death of a Henan woman hit by two cars in less than a few minutes due to "bystander effect" is released.  Over 40 people and cars had passed by the victim after she was hit by the first car-- had not done a thing to help the victim.

Below is the link for the video (viewer discretion: may be offensive to some).
https://www.hongkongfp.com/2017/06/08/video-chinese-woman-run-minute-later-witnesses-leave-lying-traffic/

Chinese netizens who knew about this bystander incident, after watching this dog video,  have commented:

"Seeing this (video), the contrast makes humans ashamed of themselves"
对比让人生愧
"It is too bad the Henan woman car victim had not raised a dog".
河南那被撞的女子,可惜没养条狗。
"In reality, some people are not measured up to a dog"
 现实生活中,有些人真的不如狗!
"From now on, Chinese is not qualified to insult animals"
以后中国人再没有资格侮辱禽兽

RIP Ms. Ma the car victim
RIP White dog!

Ken Lai
kenlaifengshui.com


https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/3761482/china-woman-run-over-twice-taxi-ignored-killed/

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Will and When you have Love Rival?

This article shows the characteristics of Bazi charts that are likely to have "love rival" or competition and when this rival will show up.  Rival also means spousal affair if you are married.

If you are not familiar with Bazi terms, log into bazi-calculator.com and key in your birthday to find out your daymaster (in the day column) and the terms listed below.

Male natal chart with numerous peer stars (bi-jian/ jie-cai) is prone to love rival.  Peer stars stand for competitions for your girl friend or wife.  This is especially likely to happen for yang daymasters like jia, bing, wu, geng and ren (i.e. male born in these days).  The chance of rivalry increases if this is also a strong male DM.  This rivalry is likely to happen during DM's peer luck  (bi-jian/ jie-cai) periods.

Female natal chart with numerous output stars (shang-guan/ shi-shen) is prone to love rival.  Output stars stand for pressure and jinx for boy friend or husband, resulting in him running away or going for other women or affairs (if not jinxed to death in extreme case).   This is especially likely to happen for women with strong +output stars (shang-guan) due to her strong personality.  Female yin daymasters like yi, ding, ji, xin and gui are more likely to have love rivalry.  The chance of rivalry increases if this is also a weak female DM.  This rivalry is likely to happen during DM's output luck  (shang-guan/ shi-shen) periods.

Love rivalry or affair can happen to people who are do not fit the above parameters, even with stable love or marriage.  This may happen when 10-years-luck or annual luck pillar clashing DM's day branch (spouse palace) or peer star combining with this branch.

Another possibility of love rivalry happens when a male DM's wealth star (i.e. zheng-cai/ pian-cai; wife) or female DM's power star (i.e. zheng-guan/ qi-sha; husband) is combined away by luck pillar.

"Ken, is there any remedy or prevention measure available?"

Yes, consult your teacher or take these courses:
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video



Ken Lai

© 2017 Ken Lai, all rights reserved.

Video Correspondence Courses: (click for details)
“Advanced Visual Form Feng Shui” w/23 hr. HD video
“Visual Form Feng Shui” w/13 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Feng Shui Toolbox: Sha-qi, Health/Wealth and Career” w/ 7 hr. HD video
“Period 7/8 FS Toolkit w/ Advanced Flying Star techniques” w/ 6 hr. HD video
“Practical Date-Selection Methods (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
“Practical Imperial Qi-Men-Dun-Jia 4G” w/ 12 video
“Professional Imperial QMDJ 4G” w/ 21 hr. video
“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS”w/ 3 hr. HD
“EZ QMDJ Advanced Feng Shui” with 4 hr. HD video
“Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui/Blessing” w/ 24 hr video
“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ 2017 edition” with 18 hr. video

http://www.kenlaifengshui.com



 

Sunday, May 15, 2016

Dogs are more humane than people 狗比人有情

According to news, an old woman in Jiangxi Province (China) suddenly fell down while cycling at 4 am on May 15, 2016.  Ambulance and police had come and concluded the woman deceased and left without taking the body away nor arranging any mortuary service to handle the corpse.


The body was left on the road around 4 am.

This old woman made a living by scavenging or recycling garbage in the city.  She had adopted 8 homeless dogs.  Her dogs surrounded and guarded her body after the ambulance and police had left.



Her body was still laid in open even at 10 am of the same day.  Her dogs still stayed around her.  People were deeply touched by the scene.


Pictures of this incident was posted on the web. A netizen wrote,



" All this old woman has are 8 homeless dogs accompanied her when she left this earth.  I wish there is no pain in heaven-- have a smooth final journey."
“离世后只有老人生前收养的8只流浪狗陪伴在她身边,愿天堂没有痛苦,一路走好”。

Others commented:

"Dogs are more humane than people" 狗比人有情

"Dogs sometimes behave like human.  But humans always behave like animals!"
「動物偶爾也會有人性,人卻經常像畜牲一樣!」冰冷
能夠有忠犬護靈也是一種福氣。
不少人未斷氣便已經見到仔女貪婪其財物之嘴臉,不是比婆婆更可悲嗎?

While most Chinese netizens are angered by the indignity and sad ending of this old woman.  A reader gives a different opinion:

"Granny probably preferred the company of her dogs to the apathetic and materialistic human realm. 
婆婆寧願與狗多伴一會也未必願意去到冰冷又見利忘義的人類範圍。

Her spirit is surrounded and protected by loyal dogs is a blessing too.
能夠有忠犬護靈也是一種福氣婪其財物之嘴臉

 Many people have seen their children's greedy faces for inheritance even before their last breath.  Isn't this more unfortunate than the granny?" 
不少人未斷氣便已經見到仔女貪婪其財物之嘴臉,不是比婆婆更可悲嗎?

Dogs are more reliable than human.  Whether you are poor, rich, sick, homeless or disrepute, they will not walk away.  They will always stay with you till the end.

Dogs can see spirits and ghosts.  I think the old woman's spirit is still at the scene of incident and her dogs can see her.  So they stayed there.

RIP Granny

Ken Lai

http://www.kenlaifengshui.com

Sunday, August 5, 2007

Feng Shui Story (almost)

When I was a kid, I had seen a Disney movie about a dog guarded its master's grave after his death.

The town people had buried this dog next to its master after its own death. They had also created a statue of this dog. It becomes a tourist attraction nowadays.

In 1630 (late Ming Dynasty), Emperor Chang Qing was misinformed (by his Manchurian enemy) about the loyalty of General Yuan Chang Huan, one of his better commander-in-chiefs. General Yuan was accused of treason and sentenced to death by cutting into pieces. His head was hanged above the city wall to warn other possible traitors.

General She, an officer of Yuan, knew the accusation was false. He had risked his life stealing the head of General Yuan.

General She had buried Yuan in his backyard in Beijing. He had instructed his descendants not to work for the government, so that they could guard General Yuan's tomb.

160 years later, the Qing Government had released historical records and cleared the General Yuan's false accusation. The She descendants were still guarding Yuan's tomb. Even the Qing Emperor Qian Long (coins minted during his reign is a favorite Feng Shui cure) had commended
their action and loyalty.

In 1952, the Chinese communist government wanted to move all ancient tombs out of Beijing municipal area. She's descendants were still guarding the tomb. They had begged many high ranking officials to spare the tomb. Miracle did happen; Chairman Mao had spared the tomb.

But in 1966 (the Cultural Revolution), Yuan's tombstone was smashed by the Red Guards. The tomb hall was occupied by 10+ families. The She family was kicked out to a goat stable.

In 1992, Beijing City Government had budgeted RMB$50,000 to repair the tomb, but the squatters still occupy the tomb hall.

She descendants campaigned hard for the removal of squatters from the tomb.

Last year, the city government had ordered the eviction of squatters, remodeling of Yuan's tomb and opening it to tourists. But the order does not specify rebuilding the house for the tomb
guardians-- the She family.

Seventeen generations of the She descendants have guarded General Yuan's tomb for 372 years.

The government has offered the She family a bigger house outside the tomb, RMB$200,000 (US$25000) as compensation and lifetime consultancy.

The She family has declined the offer, saying that they are not aiming for money and fame but for doing something meaningful. "We cannot face our ancestors and descendants if we stop our
tomb-guarding duty after 372 years.


Ken Lai
http://www.kenlaifengshui.com
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