How to check if a man loves his wife OR mistress more?

There are many one-woman man in this world.  But there are also multiple-women man too.  How can we know if one is a one-woman or multiple-women man?  How can we figure out if he loves his wife or mistress more?  This sounds like a soap opera but gets your attention.

ONE-WOMAN VS. MULTIPLE WOMEN MAN
We can quickly find out if one is a loyal or "play the field" man by check his Bazi natal chart.  In Bazi, +wealth (zheng-cai) star represents formally married wife and -wealth (pian-cai) stands for mistress or lover.  Hence if -wealth star shows up in a male chart, the chance of this person has mistress is higher.

Note:  You can check if someone is a one-woman or multiple-women man by keying in his birthday and hour in this www.bazicalculator.com website.   However, this calculator uses  "direct wealth" to represent +wealth and "indirect wealth" for -wealth.  Look at the chart at left hand side only and check if there is any "indirect wealth"-- sign of mistress.

Characteristics of a multiple-woman male chart: 

• contains both + and -wealth stars (zheng-cai/ pian cai)
• may have "hidden" wealth star/s in the branch/es
• if there is no -wealth star in his natal chart, but luck period/s bring in -wealth star

WIFE VS. MISTRESS
By the same token,  through analyzing the relative strength and locations of +wealth and -wealth stars, we can deduce if this man favors his wife or mistress more.  

Man loves mistress more scenarios:

• -wealth star is stronger than +wealth star:  this means mistress is more capable than the wife or has qualities that wife does not possess.
• -wealth star/s show up in stem level and +wealth star is hidden in branch level:  whatever in stem level means "visible" to public whereas in branch level is not seen by the public.  This man is brazenly showing off his mistress in public and rarely taking wife out socializing.
• multiple -wealth stars in the chart:  this means -wealth star or mistress is strong and keeping the attention of the man.
• proximity to the daymaster (man):  "proximity" here means -wealth star sits next or below the daymaster like in the day-stem (strongest), month-stem or hour-stem.  Being "close" means deeper relationship with the man.

Man loves wife more scenarios:

1. +wealth star is stronger than -wealth star:  this means mistress is less capable than his wife and may have some undesirable qualities.
2. +wealth star/s show up in stem level and -wealth star is hidden in branch level:  whatever in stem level means "visible" to public whereas in branch level is not seen by the public.  This man is "hiding" or keeping the mistress in secret.
3. multiple +wealth stars in the chart:  this means +wealth star or wife is strong and may not tolerate taking a mistress in.
4. +wealth or wife star "gains position":  "gains position" here means wife star sitting in spouse palace and becomes very powerful.  This man is likely "afraid" or "dominated" by wife and dares not getting a mistress.
5. proximity to the daymaster (man):  "proximity" here means +wealth star sits next or below the daymaster like in the day-stem (strongest), month-stem or hour-stem. 

"Ken, how do we check one-man woman and multiple-men woman?

This is a BOGO article.  The answer for your question is embedded in the article by changing six words.  I give you the first four: change wife to husband, man to woman, mistress to lover, +wealth to ????? and -wealth to ?????

Here we keep things simple without considering the scenario that a man or woman unintentionally becomes a multiple-women or men person due to jinxing the spouse to death (and marrying again).  This is another story.

You can see Bazi or 4-pillars is fun and practical.  It is also the stepping stone for learning other Chinese metaphysical subjects.  If you want to know more, please take this course:
“4-Pillars Forecasting Bootcamp+ 2022″ w/ 18 hr. video 

Ken Lai
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“Applied Bazi: Sickness Forecasting and Management” w/33 hr. HD video 
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Bazi: Meaning of NO wealth element in natal chart

500th article of this blog:  I have started writing articles about Chinese Metaphysics since 2000.   It takes 18 years to write the 500th article. 

MEANING OF NO WEALTH ELEMENT IN NATAL CHART

1. Daymaster (DM) lacks relationship or karma with father like father dies prematurely, runs away, is incapable, chronically sick or handicapped.
2. DM lacks relationship or karma with wife like frequent confrontations, marrying late and likely separated eventually.
3. DM has little or no wealth luck, is likely to make money through physical labor (except chart with output star/s)
4. DM has problems keeping money-- money comes in first half of the year and gone in the second half.
5. DM loses wealth mostly due to defraud, robbery, injury or sickness and not for something of value.
6. DM has no or poor money management skill or losing money due to poor investment or speculations.

As usual, there are exceptions to the above, like if wealth element is unfavorable to the chart, then no wealth element actually is good for wealth.

HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND NEW YEAR!

Ken Lai 

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Bazi: How to spot "Cute Guy" from a birthday chart

My female students have been chasing me for the Bazi characteristics of "cute guys" for 10+ years because I have only told them the characteristics of beautiful women.

It is possible to guess the external appearance of someone by reading his or her birthday Bazi chart.  Below are the Bazi characteristics of cute or handsome guys (帅哥) in their natal charts.

1.  Presence of peach-blossom elements-- "Peach-blossom" elements are the "attraction index" in Bazi.  zi (rat), wu (horse), mao (rabbit) and you (rooster) are the 4 peach-elements in Bazi.  People with these peach-blossom elements usually are attractive and sociable.

2.  Chart with metal and water mutual-nurturing like 2 metal and 1 water elements or 1 metal and 2 water elements-- the daymaster (DM) is likely to be intelligent,  have fair complexion and refined facial features.

3.  Chart with wood and fire mutual-nurturing-- this DM is likely to be handsome (pretty if this is a woman) and intelligent.

4.  Chart with strong pian-cai (-wealth) elements-- pian-cai stands for lover/ mistress for male.  For example,  Jia and Yin-wood are the the pian-cai of a Geng-metal DM.  Men with strong pian-cai usually are attractive to opposite sex and look handsome.

5.  Chart with strong output stars (shang-guan/ shi-shen)-- output stars stand talent and intelligence.  Men with strong output stars are usually sentimental, intelligent, romantic and accomplished.  People in the entertainment industries usually have strong output stars.

Actually, all the above characteristics except #4, are also predictors of pretty women!  You get a BOGO deal here.  This guide works for people with any sexual preference.

Pretty or not pretty, cute or not cute, are in the eyes of beholders.  It is not unusual to see "cute guys" pairing with "not so beautiful" girls or pretty girls with not so handsome dudes.  Assuming it is not due to "wealth factors", it is usually the not so pretty/handsome party has numerous peach-blossom elements in his or her chart.

Ken Lai

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Female Secrets for a "Good" Marriage

"Good" here does not mean "perfect" but satisfactory or slightly above "average".  Below are the 4-pillars or Bazi characteristics of women with good or better than average marriage.  I have included related tables for you to check if your own natal chart has these characteristics.  Simply click on the tables to enlarge them.  You need to go to bazi-calculator.com to generate your own Bazi chart first before using these tables.

BAZI CHARACTERISTICS OF WOMEN WITH GOOD MARRIAGES 
1.  Natal chart with "Zheng-guan/ Zheng-cai" (ZG/ ZC) OR "Zheng-guan/ Pian-cai" (ZG/ PC)
-- Zheng-guan (+power) represents husband for female chart.  ZC and PC are wealth elements. When a female chart has ZG/ZC or ZG/PC combination, DM will have a higher chance of marrying well, especially if ZG is the favorable element (yong-shen). 

2.  Natal chart with "Zheng-guan/ Zheng-yin" (ZG/ ZY) OR  "Zheng-guan/ Pian-yin" (ZG/ PY)
-- Zheng-yin and Pian-yin stand for "resource" elements.  Power star (husband) nurtures resource star.  Female DM with power star nurturing resource star is emotionally stable, traditional, family-oriented and dedicated to husband and children.  Hence, she has a stable marriage though it is not too romantic.

3.  Natal chart with "Qi-sha/ Shi-shen" (QS/ SS) OR  "Qi-sha/ Shang-guan" (QS/ SG)
--  Female chart with strong output star usually is not good for marriage.  But if it has Qi-sha (-power) being controlled by output star, it fosters a good marriage.  There may be some small ups and downs but it will not significantly affect the marriage.

4.  Female Day Pillar with one of the followings:  Jia-zi, Yi-hai, Ding-hai, Gui-si, Ding-you, Ji-hai, Gui-mao and Ji-you.
-- These day pillars have good branches that either nurtures the DM, is the husband star or wealth star or Nobleman star for the chart.  Hence a good marriage is expected.

5.  Female day-branch has Tian-yi, Tian-de or Yu-de Nobleman
-- These are auspicious symbolic stars (shen-sha) for female.  They may neutralize any disharmony in a marriage.

How to find Tian-yi Nobleman in a chart:
http://kenlaifengshui.blogspot.com/search?q=Tian-yi+Nobleman

This could be be used a dating guide for men to look for a good wife too!

Ken Lai

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Factors Affecting Wealth Potential in 4P/ Bazi

After figuring out the wealth potential of his 4P birth chart,  a new student of my "4P Bootcamp" wrote:

"Realizing that my chart doesn't have much wealth in it has been a big relief.  It's allowed me to break my attachment to thinking that I should be attaining, or measuring up to my preconceived idea.  It's been a relief to let go of the goal/judgement, and just focus on the cultivation, intention and effort of the moment."

This is real positive thinking at its best.  It obliterates the need to take any motivational seminars or buy any self-help books.  It will save him tons of money too.

However, a 4P chart with few or no wealth elements does not necessarily imply the chart-owner (daymaster) will be poor or wealth-deprived.

To honor this student with this refreshing attitude, I hereby "spill some beans" about wealth element in 4P/ Bazi.  Of course, you can read the whole thing in my "4P Bootcamp" manual and videos (Note:  one of the secrets of wealth is to get people buying your courses).

It is a common misconception that the more wealth elements a 4P chart has, the richer will be the person.

The number of elements in your natal 4P chart shows only potential for wealth and not certainty to get wealth.  Luck periods, especially 10-years luck, affect one's wealth potential greatly too.

A chart with strong or numerous wealth elements (2+) can be a poor person if the daymaster is weak. This is called "poor person living in a grand mansion".  He could be a servant in the mansion or a teller in a bank.  He will get even poorer when wealth luck period comes.  This is called "weak daymaster cannot handle wealth".  His wealth luck will soar when running into peer luck (bi-jian) periods because his daymaster becomes strong (and has the energy to pick up the wealth).

A chart with few or no wealth elements (zheng-cai/ pian-cai) may get wealth when the daymaster runs into 10-years and annual wealth luck periods for strong daymaster and peer luck periods for weak daymaster.  However, to make meaningful or substantial wealth, one needs to have at least a 10-years wealth luck period and preferably two consecutive 10-years wealth luck period.  Annual wealth luck will be likely "money-comes-money-goes" scenarios.

There are more finer points about wealth potentials, like charts with strong daymaster and few wealth elements are likely to jinx wife and father, weak daymasters with numerous wealth may be beaten up by wives and who can or cannot keep the wealth.........

Ken Lai
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“Applied Bazi: Sickness Forecasting and Management” w/33 hr. HD video 
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 1: Forecasting and Decision Support” w/32 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Feng Shui Toolbox: Sha-qi, Health/Wealth and Career” w/ 7 hr. HD video
“Period 7/8 FS Toolkit w/ Advanced Flying Star techniques” w/ 6 hr. HD video
“Practical Date-Selection Methods (incl. XKDG) w/ 12 hr. video
“Practical Imperial Qi-Men-Dun-Jia 4G” w/ 12 hr. video
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“EZ QMDJ series: Astrology, Date/Task Selection, Annual Luck/ FS” w/ 3 hr. HD
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“Practical Door Feng Shui for Wealth” w/ 3 hr. video
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