Who are your helpful friends or enemies

"Helpful friends" (also called "nobleman") are people who are likely to nurture and rescue you when you are in trouble.  "Enemies" (also called "mean people" sometimes) here refer to people who may consciously or unconsciously make your life difficult, steal your opportunities or backstabbing you.

A simple method of finding out who are your real friends or enemies is comparing the  the Chinese zodiac animal birth signs of you and the potential friends, to see if they "clash", "hai or damage" or "penalize" each other.  Below are the check list. 

Animal pairs that clash each other 相冲属相: 
-- Rat and horse, ox and ram, tiger and monkey, rabbit and rooster, dragon and dog, snake and pig.

Animal pairs that damage each other 相害属相: 

-- Rat and ram, ox and horse, tiger and snake, rabbit and dragon, monkey and pig, rooster and dog.

Animal pairs that penalize each other 相刑属相: 
-- Rat and rabbit, ox, ram and dog (3-penalities), tiger, money and snake (3-penalties), pig and pig, rooster and rooster, horse and horse, dragon and dragon.

There are folk beliefs that hold:

• Dragon and tiger fight 龙与虎会斗
• Tiger and tiger fight  一山不容二虎

However, using animal sign to predict who is your pal or enemy is a little simplistic.  A more accurate method is using Bazi or 4-Pillars to check which element (metal, wood, water, fire or wood) that your chart needs most.  You may need a Bazi reader if you do not know Bazi. Then check the following list:

IF YOUR BAZI CHART:
-- likes metal:  monkey and rooster people born in autumn are your "nobleman"
-- dislikes metal:  monkey and rooster people born in autumn are your "mean people"

-- likes water:  rat and pig people born in winter are your "nobleman"
-- dislikes water:  rat and pig people born in winter are your "mean people"

-- likes wood:  tiger and rabbit people born in spring are your "nobleman"
-- dislikes wood:  tiger and rabbit people born in spring are your "mean people"

-- likes fire:  snake and horse people born in summer are your "nobleman"
-- dislikes fire:  snake and horse people born in summer are your "mean people"

-- likes wet earth (chen/ chou):  dragon and ox people born in 3rd or 12th solar month are your "nobleman"
-- dislikes wet earth (chen/ chou):  dragon and ox people born in 3rd or 12th solar month are your "mean people"

-- likes dry earth (wei/ xu):  ram and dog people born in 6th or 9th solar month are your "nobleman"
-- dislikes dry earth (chen/ chou):  dragon and ox people born in 6th or 12th solar month are your "mean people"

Today is your lucky day.  This is a BOGT (buy-one-get-two free) article.  The same idea can also be applied to mate-selection and business partner selection.

Ken Lai
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Bazi: Do you attract "mean people" or backstabbers 易招小人八字

Previous post has discussed about Feng Shui features that attract "mean people"-- people who displace you, push you around, backstabbing, blocking your advancement or simply make your life unbearable.

Besides blaming it on Feng Shui, your own Bazi chart can also be the reason for attracting "mean people".  Below are the Bazi characteristics of people who draw mean people.

Weak daymaster (DM) with strong power stars (zheng-guan/ qi-sha)
Strong power stars are unfavorable to a weak DM.  Weak DM is unable to control strong power stars.  In turn, these power stars will attack DM.  These power stars become "mean people" to him/ her.  On the other hand, if  DM is strong and able to control power stars (this depends on the DM strength and power star strength differential), this DM becomes a "mean person" to other people!

Strong DM with unfavorable peer stars (bi-jian/ jie-cai)

When a DM is strong, peer stars become unfavorable because they will make DM even stronger like an over-inflated balloon.  In this scenario, the negative aspects of peer stars will show up-- provocative, deceptive, manipulative, treacherous, instigative and the like.  Peer stars stand for friends, siblings, co-workers, and peer groups.  Hence this DM will suffer from these people representing peer stars or "mean people".

For Bazi and Feng Shui approaches to handle "mean people" problem, ask your teachers or take these courses:

“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 2: Basic Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video
“Destiny/Luck Mgmt. 3 w/ Advanced Bazi Therapy w/18 hr. HD video


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Feng Shui features that attract mean people 犯小人风水

"Xiao ren" or "little people" is the Chinese term for mean people, backstabbers and gossipers -- people who make your life miserable or blocking your progress in life.

Common Feng Shui features that attract mean people are:

1. External negative energy (sha-qi) like T-junction, heaven-chopping sha, and other form sha.
2. Missing corner in home or office, especially SE or NW side.
3. Overhanging beam above your seat or bed
4. Door facing door, whether with your neighbor's door or door facing door inside your home or office
5. Window behind sofa, bed or office chair (no support or helpful mentor)
6. "Yin" plants with thorns like roses, cactus, climbing plants/ vines
7. Clutters and  garbage accumulation in your home or office
8. Sleeping or sitting in the annual 3-wood star location (2018 in NE, 2019 in south, 2020 in north).  This star stands for disharmony and mean people.

Some remedies or cures for the above are from simple to difficult.  The easy ones are simply removing or relocating the offending Feng Shui items.  For the difficult ones, please consult your Feng Shui teacher or take the following course for cures or remedies:

“Advanced Visual Form Feng Shui” w/23 hr. HD video 


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House Feng Shui that makes you poor

If your financial situation gets tough and tougher and the problem is not due to your destiny or natal chart, it could possibly be the Feng Shui of your house.

Below are some possible reasons that you are poor:

1.  Main door and back door (or window) form a straight line with nothing in between
-- Wealth energy and auspicious qi flow from the main door and leave your house through the back door or window. Residents do not get any benefit.

2.  Main door faces the main door of another house
-- If the energy of your door is weaker or overcome by the opposing door, your luck will tank.

3.  Bathroom/ toilet door faces kitchen door
-- clean water of the kitchen clashing "dirty" toilet water:  bad for health and wealth luck.

4.  Living in basement for extended periods
--  "Underground" living affects the residents psychologically and emotionally.  It is bad for relationship and wealth luck

5.  Right side neighbor is much higher than your house
-- This is called "white tiger overwhelms green dragon"白虎压青龙.  White tiger stands for "mean people" and lawsuits.  This stands for sickness, bad wealth luck, backstabbing and legal problems for the residents (not to mention a overwhelming wife!). This situation also applies to a house with much bigger right side or right side has tall power tower, flyover or chimneys.

6.  Missing corner in northwest side of the house
-- Northwest side stands for career luck which affects the male residents more.  Missing corner in northeast also has similar effects.

7.  Main door facing stairway or elevator
-- This cause unstable flow of energy affecting wealth luck or causing difficulties in creating wealth.

8.  Too many doors or corridors in the living room
--  Living room is the "inner ming-tang" of the house representing wealth potential (especially for apartments).  Too many corridors or doors in the living room will leak the wealth energy or cannot accumulate qi.

9.  Cracks on the walls
-- If there are cracks in the back wall of bed or living room, this condition is equivalent to damages in "supporting mountain" and affecting wealth luck.

10.  Water tap or faucet dripping/ leaking or pointing to outside
--  Water stands for wealth in Feng Shui.  When the water tap or faucet leaks water in a house, it symbolizes leak wealth for the residents.  If the tap points to outside of house, it also implies water flowing outside the house.

Consult your Feng Shui teacher for remedies or take:

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Beating up the mean people around you

One may feel depressed because it seems the whole world is against him.  One works his behind off and the boss shows no appreciation.  Co-workers and friends back-stab or drive him nuts.  He seems to run into obstacles wherever he moves.  Nothing seems to go his way. He is neither a violent nor sports type person, so he cannot grab a gun to shot or do boxing.  There is no channel to vent his frustration and anger. 

Upon the recommendation of a good pal, this depressed person consults a psychologist.  The psychologist is happy to offer him a battery of psychological tests and customize a "therapy plan" of 6- 10+ counseling sessions.

During the sessions, the depressed dude will spill out his pet peeves.  The psychologist will sugar-coat the client's craps and throw it back to him.  He may realize that it is either his own stupidity that he is depressed OR it is nobody's fault to be depressed OR simple get a life and think positive.

Somehow our depressed dude feels relieved and happy again, largely due to the opportunity to find someone listening to his pet peeves.  But he becomes depressed again when he is billed a few thousand dollars by the psychologist.

In Southern China, there is a service that can offer similar or better results for the price of a MacDonald Value Meal.

The Chinese call people who back-stab or obstruct you or whoever make your life miserable as "mean people" or "little people" (xiao-ren 小人).  There are "beating up mean people ritual" (打小人)services for people who feel that they are being rejected, slighted, bullied and etc,. by other people.  These services are mostly provided by older women or grannies.

In Hong Kong, beneath a flyover near the Times Square, there are some grannies practicing "Beating Mean People" ritual for HK$40 (US$ 5) per beating.  You do not even need to raise your finger.  The grannie will do all the "beating".  This service include:

A.  ALL THE PAPERWORK (joss papers)
-- a big yellow talisman that includes clemency orders for your bad deeds or sins.
-- a red nobleman talisman to attract helpful people to you.
-- joss paper money to please the deities and spirits
-- a paper tiger (symbolizes "mean people")
-- a paper imprinted with a human shape (represents the mean people who bully you, for beating)
-- a plea to heaven about beating the mean people
-- incense and candle sticks


B.  SERVICES

-- you can specify the name of a person to be beaten or just a "blanket beating" of all the mean people around you (no extra charge!).

-- your "mean people" are represented by a piece of rectangular paper with a human shape imprinted.  It will be put on the surface of a brick.  The grannie will use a woman high heel shoe to strike the paper human from head to toes while chanting something like these:

" Hit the head of  you mean people, so you can't breathe.
  Hit the hands of you mean people, so  you can't hold your pen.
  Hit the feet of you mean people, so you can't wear shoes...."

You may add your special punishment to your mean people.  But this ritual rarely curses or beats  people to death.

-- after a thorough beating, the paper mean person will be "engulfed" (wrapped inside) by a paper tiger and burnt.

-- a quick divination will be done with the portable altar nearby by throwing two piece of wood (3 possible combinations) to see if the deity "approves" of the beating.  If the answer is "no", grannie will throw a pinch of rice and burn some papers and redo the divination until getting deity's approval.  Most of the time, two tries are enough.  Now you will feel great because even the deity or heaven has approved of your beating.

-- all the remaining "paperwork" (joss paper) is lighted and sway around your body to "cleanse" or remove  negative energies away.  At the same time, grannie will chant, "Auspiciousness and prosperity for you!"  You feel lighter, relieved and happy.

-- throw the burning paper into a red tin can to finish burning (ritual is done)

This is probably the best deal in mental health service.  For US$ 5, you get your sins forgiven, your mean people beaten with heaven's approval, spiritual cleansing and blessed with good luck and fortune.  No wonder Hong Kong's Tourist Association was so surprised to sell 2000 "Beating Mean People Tour" packages in Taiwan within a day or two in last May.

"Ken, does this really work?"

Two years ago, I took an Amercian Feng Shui pal to the grannie and beaten up his "mean people".  He told me later that he had no business for two months.  He was dumbfounded that most of his clients are the "mean people".  Mean people are sometimes the people who sign your paycheck, so be careful when you try to "beat" them.

In my "Daoist Talismans for Feng Shui and Blessing" course, I have a more "humane" ritual that does the same thing without beating up people.  It focuses on bringing in helpful mentors into one's life instead.  The ritual works so well that it is reported on the TV in South America.


Ken Lai

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